This is an actual text message received by myself, Lady Elle, from my LoverMan (LM).
I love you so much, I think about you all day. When I get home, it takes all my self control not to be all over you. I think about your kisses and the way they taste, I think about your skin and the way it smells, I think about your hair and the way it feels, and I ache all day in anticipation of getting to experience you when I get home. I love you.
I am one Lucky Lady!
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
The Language(s) of Love
Everyone says "I love you" in a different way. In addition to that, everyone feels "I love you" in a different way. One person's idea of showing their love may be as different to their partner's idea of expression as Chinese is to French.
There are five Love Languages; five ways to show someone that you care, and five ways that may make someone feel that special feeling.
Words of Affirmation - This is one of my favorite of the languages. It can simply be saying, "Honey, you did a great job!" It can be a compliment "Your hair looks nice today", an expression of gratitude "Thanks for helping with the laundry", or words of encouragement "I know you can do this, babe".
Physical Touch - I think this is one of the more obvious expressions of love. Sex falls into this category, but there are many other forms of physical touch, as well. Kissing can be very intimate, as well as body rubbing, and making love. Sometimes a subtle brush up against one another as you pass in the hallway, or a touch on the cheek might be nice. Some physical touch is pleasant to some people, while other people may be uncomfortable with some forms of touch. Experiment! Pay attention to how your partner reacts to different touches in different areas. Listen and feel.
Quality Time - This one is not as easy as it sounds. Two people could spend an entire evening together, and not spend a moment of quality time. You must focus your energy completely on your partner. Share experiences, thoughts and feelings. Make conversation (with both people actively involved). LISTEN and respond. Find activities that you enjoy sharing, and do them together. Set aside focused time to share solely with your mate.
Receiving Gifts - Some people are way into this one, while others might prefer any other language. I think this language is most openly expressed on Valentine's Day, Anniversaries, Birthdays, etc, but can be spoken on any day for any reason (or for no reason at all, other than to give your partner a symbol of your love). The gifts need not be expensive, and need not necessarily come frequently. Some partners are not avid spenders; however it is important to understand that you are investing your money not in gifts, but in deepening your relationship with your mate.
Acts of Service - This is another big one for me. Nothing says "I love you" like a partner that helps you fold the laundry or empty the dishwasher, so that you can snuggle together later and not be worried about the ever-building chore list. I also love it when my LoverMan cooks me dinner, so that I get a break from the never ending work-to-be-done and can relax for a moment. It is pampering. It is important to do these services as an act of kindness, and not out of obligation. You must want to help your partner.
What is your love language? And the better question is, what is your partners language?
There are five Love Languages; five ways to show someone that you care, and five ways that may make someone feel that special feeling.
Words of Affirmation - This is one of my favorite of the languages. It can simply be saying, "Honey, you did a great job!" It can be a compliment "Your hair looks nice today", an expression of gratitude "Thanks for helping with the laundry", or words of encouragement "I know you can do this, babe".
Physical Touch - I think this is one of the more obvious expressions of love. Sex falls into this category, but there are many other forms of physical touch, as well. Kissing can be very intimate, as well as body rubbing, and making love. Sometimes a subtle brush up against one another as you pass in the hallway, or a touch on the cheek might be nice. Some physical touch is pleasant to some people, while other people may be uncomfortable with some forms of touch. Experiment! Pay attention to how your partner reacts to different touches in different areas. Listen and feel.
Quality Time - This one is not as easy as it sounds. Two people could spend an entire evening together, and not spend a moment of quality time. You must focus your energy completely on your partner. Share experiences, thoughts and feelings. Make conversation (with both people actively involved). LISTEN and respond. Find activities that you enjoy sharing, and do them together. Set aside focused time to share solely with your mate.
Receiving Gifts - Some people are way into this one, while others might prefer any other language. I think this language is most openly expressed on Valentine's Day, Anniversaries, Birthdays, etc, but can be spoken on any day for any reason (or for no reason at all, other than to give your partner a symbol of your love). The gifts need not be expensive, and need not necessarily come frequently. Some partners are not avid spenders; however it is important to understand that you are investing your money not in gifts, but in deepening your relationship with your mate.
Acts of Service - This is another big one for me. Nothing says "I love you" like a partner that helps you fold the laundry or empty the dishwasher, so that you can snuggle together later and not be worried about the ever-building chore list. I also love it when my LoverMan cooks me dinner, so that I get a break from the never ending work-to-be-done and can relax for a moment. It is pampering. It is important to do these services as an act of kindness, and not out of obligation. You must want to help your partner.
What is your love language? And the better question is, what is your partners language?
Friday, November 23, 2007
Greetings
Greetings ! I am Lady Elle; welcome to my blog. It is here that you will indulge into one's inner-most fantasies and desires; here that you might delve into passion and romance; here where you may find eroticism and sensuality. I invite you to cozy up, snuggle in and read along. Please feel free to share your thoughts and feelings along the way.
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